By Joanie Matijevic, RN, Fertility Center of Miami
O ver the years as a fertility nurse, I’ve spoken to so many patients who tell me the same thing: “I wish people knew what to say.” Watching someone you care about struggle with fertility can be heartbreaking, and it’s completely normal to feel unsure about how to offer support. If you’re not sure what to say, don’t worry. I’m here to help you find the words, and more importantly, the presence, that can truly make a difference.
Here are a few phrases I recommend that can go a long way:
These aren’t complicated, but they’re powerful. They communicate empathy, space, and consistent care, exactly what someone navigating infertility needs most.
You may be tempted to share advice, offer solutions, or try to “stay positive.” But even well-meaning comments can feel isolating or invalidating.
Here are a few things to avoid:
Trust me, your loved one has heard it all. And while these statements come from a place of love, they often minimize what they’re going through.
And most importantly: let them set the tone. Some days they’ll want to talk, others not. Let them know you’re with them in either case.
If you or someone you love is struggling with fertility, we’re here to help. At the Fertility Center of Miami, our team combines cutting-edge care with heartfelt compassion, because we know this path isn’t easy, but you don’t have to walk it alone.
Ready to talk? Contact us today or schedule an appointment to take the first step with us.