Sometimes, the Best Thing You Can Say Is Simple

Let me start by saying this: you don’t need to fix anything. You don’t need perfect words. Most of the time, your loved one just wants to feel like they’re not alone.

Here are a few phrases I recommend that can go a long way:

• “I’m here. You don’t have to go through this alone.”
• “Do you want to talk? Or just need a distraction today?”
• “You don’t owe me any updates, I’ll just check in with love.”

These aren’t complicated, but they’re powerful. They communicate empathy, space, and consistent care, exactly what someone navigating infertility needs most.

What Not to Say: Avoid Advice, Offer Presence

You may be tempted to share advice, offer solutions, or try to “stay positive.” But even well-meaning comments can feel isolating or invalidating.

Here are a few things to avoid:

• “Just relax, and it’ll happen.”
• “At least you know you can get pregnant.”
• “Everything happens for a reason.”
• “You could always adopt!”

Trust me, your loved one has heard it all. And while these statements come from a place of love, they often minimize what they’re going through.

Instead, Lead With Kindness

Infertility is not just a medical experience, it’s emotional, physical, and deeply personal. The kindest thing you can do is be present. You don’t have to understand every detail of their treatment. Just be there. Check in. Sit with them in silence if that’s what they need. Send a funny meme. Respect their privacy.

And most importantly: let them set the tone. Some days they’ll want to talk, others not. Let them know you’re with them in either case.

You’re Doing More Than You Know

If you’re reading this, it means you care, and that already makes you a wonderful friend. By showing up with patience, kindness, and an open heart, you’re offering the exact kind of support someone needs on a journey through fertility.

If you or someone you love is struggling with fertility, we’re here to help. At the Fertility Center of Miami, our team combines cutting-edge care with heartfelt compassion, because we know this path isn’t easy, but you don’t have to walk it alone.

Ready to talk? Contact us today or schedule an appointment to take the first step with us.